Lovely low-key weekend

When will my complexion settle down? I have a pimple on my chin and mad wrinkles on my forehead. Are you a teenager or a 34-year old? Make up your mind, face!

Besides dealing with skin issues, I had a fine little lowkey weekend. My massage Friday night was very nice. The oil my masseuse used smelled excellent, sage and eucaplytus, I believe, though I could have picked two mintier ones, a grapefruity one, or one that was rosy (while I like roses in person, rose-scented items make me think of little old ladies).

She could totally tell where my problem areas were: behind my right shoulderblade – all that mousing – and between my neck and shoulder on my left side, ie, where I carry my bag. When she kneaded that area by my right shoulderblade, it KILLED, though in a good way, but on my left it just felt good. Guess it’s really tight over there on the right.

I swear I think she pushed all my cold toxins to the surface because the bug that’s been brewing all week has finally come to a head. Coughing, sneezing, runny nose, though I feel better overall.

How I look on the other hand. I went to Sak’s to ask about these samples I received. The actual items are mucho dinero – like $200 for a little pot of night cream. No thanks! I did manage to wrangle some more free samples out of them, and for some reason she gave me a boatload for dark undereye circles. I’m sick! I wanted to shout. I don’t always look like this!

Saturday morning I was up early to help my friend snap some photos for promo materials for his next comedy gig. Took a lot – let’s hope some are usable.

I practiced using the “continuous” mode for the first time. Oh my God, so much fun. I tried it several times with him riding down the sidewalk on his skateboard. Flipping through the pictures quickly was like watching a little movie. I’ll have to find another excuse to use it again.

Did my beauty product run that afternoon. Besides Sak’s I hit Barney’s, and then I walked home. A beautiful but chilly day. I rested at my place for a bit before heading back out that evening to attend a concert one of my coworkers was performing in and had organized.

The performance was up near my alma mater so you’d think I’d know how to get there. But somehow I got on the wrong train and ended up in Harlem. Same street number, different avenue. I looked up from my book very confused and actually thought they had changed the name of the stop.

In the end I got to where I needed to go, and realized after that instead of a bus and a train, I could have taken one bus pretty much directly. Duh.

It was COLD that night. I had on a turtleneck, a track jacket, and a regular jacket. With my train mishap, I was a few minutes late and missed my coworker’s performance, but I’ve heard her sing before, and she was the only one I missed.

It was nice to get out and do something different. I don’t make it a habit of listening to classical music or opera, so it was good to expose myself to that. Plus I’m proud of myself for going even though I had no one to go with. I could have easily made an excuse about feeling sick and not wanting to go by myself, and just have stayed home and watched some stupid TV. But in going, I got out of the house, got some culture, and showed support to my friend and the arts. Woohoo!

Today was chore/errand day:

  • balanced my checkbook
  • switched my summer and fall/winter clothes
  • got some Chinese medicine from Chinatown (licorice tablets for my itchy throat, the only thing that’s ever worked for me; had to hit four herbal shops to find it)
  • picked up Asian groceries
  • checked out Kiehl’s (didn’t buy, must show some resistance)
  • bought some regular groceries
  • cooked this beef/vegetable/curry concoction that looks gross but tastes good and will last me another two or three days

I am also tearing through this latest issue of Granta. I think I was out of practice with reading. Now that I’ve fallen back in the habit, I feel like I’m reading faster. Or maybe now I’m just used to doing it in spare moments throughout the day – waiting for the train, on the train, a few minutes here and there at work – as well as large chunks in the early morning and evening. Now I just need to fall back into the habit of writing again too.

I realized only recently that I’m learning to live alone again. Not on my own, of course I know how to do that. I thought the only thing I had to relearn was dating, but what’s more important is knowing how to live alone well and fully, not waiting for the next Big Love to come along, or waiting for the next Big Anything.

You spend all your time waiting for the next Big Whatever, you miss all the Smaller but Still Important Whatevers that are right in front of your face.

Your pimply, wrinkly face. :)


  1. good for you! it sounds like a great weekend.

  2. i know i don’t know you, but i’m proud of you nonetheless!

  3. Sounds like a fabulous weekend! I think it’s hard not to get stuck in a rut when living alone. It’s far to easy just to get all comfortable at home. I know I’ve been guilty of that.

  4. I did the low key weekend as well. Sounds like it was a good chance to mellow out.

  5. i never want to go out by myself and always try to come up with excuses (sick, tired, etc. etc), but inevitably the times that i make myself do it, i end up have a great time :)

  6. Oh my, I’m so glad to find you again. I wasn’t sure who this new link to me was but, strangely enough, I recognized you, just from your posts. Isn’t it amazing how much we learn about our cyber friends.

    I’m sorry for your loss but so happy to see that you are still honoring yourself and getting re-balanced.

    Oh, and the skin thing? It only get worse as you get older. You start getting the freakin’ little white hairs growing…more random pimples, more wrinkles. Yikes, some things about aging really suck.

    I’m glad to see you again…must go update my blogroll.

  7. I liked what you wrote about how you might miss the smaller moments while being so busy waiting for the Big Things.

    It gave me something to think about.

  8. kyahgirl: so glad you found – and recognized – me! oh no re: the skin thing. guess it’s something i’ll just have to accept.

  9. Stopping by to say thanks for visiting my blog. Looks like we have some common taste in tv shows. My mom has given up on Gilmore Girls but ZI actually like Christopher and Lorelai together and, obviously, I am a big Jess and Rory fan.

    I also went through a major pimple crisis when I was 34 (weird huh? hormones were completely out of whack). The only thing that helped me was homeopathy.

  10. It’s Catherine here… can I put you back on my blogroll now or do you want me to hold off for a bit more?

  11. catherine – yes, please feel free to blogroll me again. thanks for asking!

  12. I hear you on the wrinkly forehead, I gave in and am going to go get some sort of peel tomorrow that promises to soften the fine lines. I do think a day of pampering once in a short while is a good thing to treat yourself with!