Calmer still

Today I had a realization: it’s a crapshoot with anyone, as to whether or not a relationship will work, regardless of their past. With anyone, it takes time to find out and to give things a chance.

I tend to get ahead of myself and want answers immediately. I want the certainty right away. But there’s always a risk, always some uncertainty in the beginning.

Seems so obvious but it took me a whole day to figure that out.


  1. A whole day isn’t that long. It has taken me years to figure out obvious things.

  2. sounds healthy. there really are no guarantees with anyone, in any relationship, that’s the risk and the beauty in them.

  3. Damn, blogger lost my comment…

    I totally understand where you’re coming from. A long time ago, I learned that if you’re not prepared to hear an answer to a question, don’t ask. Sometimes information may give the wrong impression if you haven’t taken the time to get to know the person.

  4. That’s great news! And it’s good that you and H. are able to talk through these issues without freaking each other out. Sounds very promising.

  5. that was nice to read. A relationship is like a marathon. You have to pace yourself, don’t go out fast or you hit the wall and don’t finish.