Next memoir post is up.
In it, I finally leave my ex, going out for the first time without my wedding ring, moving into my own apartment in the city, and finally telling my parents.
Now it’s been almost five years since my ex and I split up. I remember in October 2005, the day I received my final divorce papers was the same day that Jennifer Aniston and Brad Pitt’s divorce was finalized.
I really felt a bond with Jen back then (Team Aniston!). She also got married in year 2000. Brad was also supposedly unfaithful, and left her for his mistress, who shortly afterward had his child. I cried along with her in her Vanity Fair interview.
Last week People magazine’s cover story was Jennifer Aniston, 5 Years After Brad. How ridiculous, right? I mean, who cares at this point? There have been a zillion other divorces since then that People isn’t talking about. Why endlessly Jen and Brad, five years, half a dozen kids, and several bad movies later?
Because for a while, Jen and Brad were Hollywood’s golden couple. Not only was Brad HOT, he could act but didn’t take himself too seriously. Jen was girl next door-gorgeous, goofy and cute on Friends, and by God, she could act too. They seemed fun and down to earth, a couple you could drink and get high with.
Then along came Angelina. (Cue scary music.) Pale, dark-haired, and kinda creepy (vial of Billy Bob’s blood, anyone?). She was the weird, beautiful girl you made fun of but secretly wanted to be friends with, if only because she couldn’t give two shits about being friends with you. How could Brad resist?
How could anyone resist?
Of course I perked up when I saw the headline. Me too, Jen, five years later! But unlike Aniston, I haven’t had every break up and bloat-mistaken-for-baby-bump splashed across the tabloids (just on my blog). While I willingly look back on the past five years, maybe she doesn’t want to. But, unless she holes up in a cave, she won’t have much a choice.
My memoir, like the tabloids, make a story out of the events of my life. Joe and I were the nice and unassuming couple you made small talk with at the train station. We were hard working and good to our parents. I was the dutiful daughter-in-law, taking care of my sick mother-in-law and basically giving up a lot for the good of the family. The dutiful wife betrayed by her unfeeling husband.
But there was a lot going on underneath. Built-up resentment, withholding of affection, my feeling maybe that I had settled, Joe having an inkling of that. I’m not saying it was my own fault, only that it was complicated. Who knows what was going on between Brad and Jen before Angelina came along? Only they know. Only ever do the husband and wife know in a marriage.