Life status update

Time changes everything except something within us which is always surprised by change. ~ Thomas Hardy

I haven’t been blogging as much lately, and the truth it’s because there has been a huge change in my life recently that I haven’t wanted to talk about. But today for some reason I want to.

MB and I broke up.

Now I’m going to pull a Jodie Foster and ask for privacy.

I wasn’t going to mention anything on my blog, but I knew readers might start to notice that I’ve simply stopped mentioning MB, and I want to acknowledge that. I don’t want to pretend nothing happened.

I won’t go into details except to say it was an amicable break-up, meaning nothing bad happened, no one did anything they weren’t supposed to do, and we still like each other. Things change. People change.

Doesn’t make it much easier though.

Anyway, I just wanted to say that. I probably won’t talk about it much anymore, but I wanted to give some explanation as to why my blog will now seem like that of a single gal. It’s because, well, now I’m a single gal.

My parents, brother, and most of my close friends know this already, and if you’re a real-life friend finding out this way, I’m sorry.

It’s been almost two months and I’m doing okay, much better than I was at first. I’ve gotten used to having the apartment to myself, to thinking of myself as single now and no longer part of a couple, and a new routine on my own. I’m also looking forward to a bunch of stuff:

NYC birthday trip. Next week I’m spending a few days in New York. I’ll see my parents for one day and then my NYC friends for the rest of the time.

Paris trip. I’m going to Paris in May! My friend YP was planning a trip anyway and was kind enough to invite me along. I haven’t been to Paris since 2004 (before I started blogging so it might as well have never happened) and am very excited.

Moving. While I love my part of town, the rent is simply too much for me. I looked at a bunch of studios in the city but the thought of living in one depressed me. So at the end of July I’m moving to Oakland. The rent is much cheaper and I’m thinking of buying a place out there anywhere (with my parents’ help). Living there will let me get to know the area and (long-ass) commute, as well as save me some dough.

In addition, work is awesome as usual, and I have a couple of fun little writing things in the works which I’ll mention later when stuff is confirmed. I’m working on a new novel (YA fantasy) and struggling with a short story (the writing life wouldn’t be complete without some struggle). I want to look at the novel I finished in December and send it to a few people to read. Let me know if you’re interested in reading it. I need as many “beta testers” as possible, and plus that’ll be added incentive to get me working on it again.

Anyway, that’s that. I’m not going to tweet or Facebook this post, and part of me is hoping no one sees it. But I wanted to get it out there and over with.



  1. hey angela, long time no talk/read/catchup… happened on this today and just wanted to belatedly commiserate together – i know how you feel. people change, times change, and relationships amicably change, but none of that make it any easier … only time does. hope all is well.

    • Nice to hear from you, Shan, and thank you so much for your comment. Things are much better now than a few months ago. It’s really strange how just the passing of time can improve things, like you said.